What I learned about codependence

There are multiple books (and psychologists) that specialize in helping people with codependence. I’m hoping that my brief definition and summary of my personal lessons are of help to many others.

Briefly: to be codependent is to have an over-inflated sense of responsibility for others’ feelings. It’s the desire to meet others’ needs at the expense of your own.

As challenging as it is to embody these principles, here are a few things to internalize:
- When there’s a choice to honor your needs or others’ needs, choose your own.
- Putting yourself first is not selfish. It’s a radical act of self-love.
- You are not the antidote for how anyone else feels.